Five Reasons to Feel Good About Love at 30 and Beyond! by Amy Waterman
1. You can afford nicer dates than going to McDonald's.
I still remember my first date. We shared a strawberry
milkshake at McDonald's, and I was so starry-eyed with
infatuation that anything would have tasted like ambrosia.
Fortunately, my dinner dates these days are much healthier
and better suited to romance.
2. You know a bit more about life and love.
One of the scariest things about dating when you're a
teenager is starting out from a state of ignorance.
We're not born knowing how it all works. As exciting
as it feels to kiss a boy for the first time, that heady
hormonal rush is tempered by anxiety.
Very few people get through their early dating years
without feeling paralyzed by a horrible fear of messing
up. That's why it's so nice to have enough experience
to be realistic about the whole process: dating can be
disappointing, exciting, embarrassing, and exhilarating -
sometimes all at the same time!
3. You no longer put up crap from men.
By the time you reach your thirties, you've gained a
little wisdom when it comes to relationships. You can
call things what they are. You value yourself enough
to say "no" to a bad situation.
4. You can see what you're getting with him.
When you're dating in your teens and twenties, the
energy and ambition of youth makes it difficult to
clearly see who your partner will actually turn out to
be. The young man who goes to Stanford for a business
degree may drop out to flip burgers and play in a band.
The local jock may become the paunchy middle manager
whose idea of flexing his arm muscles is lifting a
beer glass.
Luckily, by the time a man reaches his thirties, his
lifestyle choices will give you a good indication of
where he sees himself going in life.
5. You've got more going on in your life than just him.
Yes, for me the best part about being 30+ is that life
is so much fuller, richer, and more satisfying than ever
before. Whether you have a relationship or not, you've
created a life that you can be proud of. You don't depend
on a man for your sense of self-worth.
Dating is part of your life but not everything. Relationships
become something wonderful to be valued when you have them,
but not despaired over when you don't.
I still remember my first date. We shared a strawberry
milkshake at McDonald's, and I was so starry-eyed with
infatuation that anything would have tasted like ambrosia.
Fortunately, my dinner dates these days are much healthier
and better suited to romance.
2. You know a bit more about life and love.
One of the scariest things about dating when you're a
teenager is starting out from a state of ignorance.
We're not born knowing how it all works. As exciting
as it feels to kiss a boy for the first time, that heady
hormonal rush is tempered by anxiety.
Very few people get through their early dating years
without feeling paralyzed by a horrible fear of messing
up. That's why it's so nice to have enough experience
to be realistic about the whole process: dating can be
disappointing, exciting, embarrassing, and exhilarating -
sometimes all at the same time!
3. You no longer put up crap from men.
By the time you reach your thirties, you've gained a
little wisdom when it comes to relationships. You can
call things what they are. You value yourself enough
to say "no" to a bad situation.
4. You can see what you're getting with him.
When you're dating in your teens and twenties, the
energy and ambition of youth makes it difficult to
clearly see who your partner will actually turn out to
be. The young man who goes to Stanford for a business
degree may drop out to flip burgers and play in a band.
The local jock may become the paunchy middle manager
whose idea of flexing his arm muscles is lifting a
beer glass.
Luckily, by the time a man reaches his thirties, his
lifestyle choices will give you a good indication of
where he sees himself going in life.
5. You've got more going on in your life than just him.
Yes, for me the best part about being 30+ is that life
is so much fuller, richer, and more satisfying than ever
before. Whether you have a relationship or not, you've
created a life that you can be proud of. You don't depend
on a man for your sense of self-worth.
Dating is part of your life but not everything. Relationships
become something wonderful to be valued when you have them,
but not despaired over when you don't.
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