Take It As It Is
Kink says: Down here in the Philippines, it's part of the culture to have hearsays. Gossips are an everyday staple. People read between the lines. Action speaks louder than words. Every gesture and every move 'might' actually mean something. I think this is also common practice with the womenfolk of the world (or maybe in some cultures?). Overanalyzing.
My years of working for an IT company filled with men made a different mark on me. Men are really simple creatures, to be honest. Take everything at face value. There's nothing behind those words. They respond well with 'bite-size'--- deploy tasks one at a time, put numbers on your issues and don't let it go beyond no.5.
I don't know how many women actually made this most common mistake with men. Been there, done that, will I be doing it again? Hehehe I can't say I'm an expert, only that I do undersand them better now.
And in my ripe years, I can say I've wisened. Men now wonder why I stand my ground and wait. Patience is a virtue. I know I'll have my way.
REad on...
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According to this dating online conselor who goes by the name of Terry MacDonald, the greatest piece of dating advice she ever got came from her friend's mother, and it was this: "Whatever a guy tells you, take it at face value."
According to Terry, before she heard this and took it to heart, she
says this:
"I used to be the type to hyperanalyze a man's every comment, gesture, or sneeze, this advice came as an epiphany to me. It freed me from having to decipher what 'I love you, but I'm not in love with you' meant, for instance, especially when the guy who blurted it had been happily spending his every free moment with me.
"It is not your job to figure out what a guy is thinking. It's not your responsibility to help him get in touch with his feelings, or overcome the childhood trauma of having to flush his dead goldfish down the toilet (which resulted in the shutting down of said feelings), or teach him how to communicate in an intelligible fashion.
"Your job is to accept what he says at face value, and that, my friend, will free you.
"Once a guy says: 'It's not you, it's me,' 'I'm not good enough for you, or 'I love you, but I'm not in love with you,' believe him. Accept that he is telling the truth."
Terry's advice is to wait for something better:
"If you want a happy relationship, you need a partner who can express himself, is affectionate, and who genuinely cares about your feelings. You need someone who is in touch with his emotions. You need a man who possesses the courage that falling in love requires.
"Hold out for the guy who deserves you."
My years of working for an IT company filled with men made a different mark on me. Men are really simple creatures, to be honest. Take everything at face value. There's nothing behind those words. They respond well with 'bite-size'--- deploy tasks one at a time, put numbers on your issues and don't let it go beyond no.5.
I don't know how many women actually made this most common mistake with men. Been there, done that, will I be doing it again? Hehehe I can't say I'm an expert, only that I do undersand them better now.
And in my ripe years, I can say I've wisened. Men now wonder why I stand my ground and wait. Patience is a virtue. I know I'll have my way.
REad on...
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According to this dating online conselor who goes by the name of Terry MacDonald, the greatest piece of dating advice she ever got came from her friend's mother, and it was this: "Whatever a guy tells you, take it at face value."
According to Terry, before she heard this and took it to heart, she
says this:
"I used to be the type to hyperanalyze a man's every comment, gesture, or sneeze, this advice came as an epiphany to me. It freed me from having to decipher what 'I love you, but I'm not in love with you' meant, for instance, especially when the guy who blurted it had been happily spending his every free moment with me.
"It is not your job to figure out what a guy is thinking. It's not your responsibility to help him get in touch with his feelings, or overcome the childhood trauma of having to flush his dead goldfish down the toilet (which resulted in the shutting down of said feelings), or teach him how to communicate in an intelligible fashion.
"Your job is to accept what he says at face value, and that, my friend, will free you.
"Once a guy says: 'It's not you, it's me,' 'I'm not good enough for you, or 'I love you, but I'm not in love with you,' believe him. Accept that he is telling the truth."
Terry's advice is to wait for something better:
"If you want a happy relationship, you need a partner who can express himself, is affectionate, and who genuinely cares about your feelings. You need someone who is in touch with his emotions. You need a man who possesses the courage that falling in love requires.
"Hold out for the guy who deserves you."
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Research at the University of Chicago suggests that women CAN do that and men DO give off signs and things...
http://www-news.uchicago.edu/releases/06/060509.attraction.shtml
After reading that and some other research...plus adding some common sense and comedy, I wrote an ebook about it.
How to get rid of bad men and attract good women...it works for both sexes in attracting good relationships:
Dating Discovery Secret